Most people fail to understand human behavior correctly. They look at their behavior without taking other variables into consideration.
Here are some tips to help you to understanding people:
1. Take time to ask simple questions to understand.
It will help you to ask ” what is going on with the other person”.
sometime, you can see, they are in upset, angry, irritated, or flustered. You can ask them. What is the reason for it.
2. You can take time to listen to the issue completely.
Use simple phrases to keep the conversation . you can tell , “I see, and what happened?” . Now they will expressed the situation fully.
3. You can allow the other person to feel how they are feeling.
You can ask them how the situation made them feel. Some times, they will tell you . You can ” what you already figured out from observing their mood. “.Now all you have to do is allow that emotion.
4. Have compassion for what the other person is going to do
You can ask to help. give them a hug to show you care and love them. Your little love and compassion can provide much comfort.
Understand it has nothing to do with you and do not take it personally. take a time & ask them, listen, allow and have compassion, It is help you to understand the other person.
After you understand, you can decide how to react using an old Sufi tradition
which advises us to speak only after our words have managed to pass through four gates.
At the first point , we ask ourselves, Are these words true? .It is true. We let them pass on. if not, back they go. At the second point we ask: Are they necessary? At the third point we ask, Are they beneficial?
And at the fourth point, we ask, Are they kind? “Any of these answer is no”. what you are about to say should be left unsaid.